When it comes to the oldest profession of the world, most people might think farmers or hunters. However if we are talking about the time period after ancient civilizations, it is actually prostitution. Prostitutes have always fulfilled unmet needs of the average Joe, from businessmen to barters, from those at the bottom of society to royalties, and from virgins to man-hoes. As this world became more modernized a new class of prostitutes have emerged, also known as escorts. Although escorts have been advocating for themselves, it is still seen as a shady and an underground profession.
To introduce myself, I am a 29 year old Asian dude living in Toronto Canada. I am on the mild end of the autism spectrum along with being a 1.5 gen immigrant. These two identities combined have made it difficult for me to engage in ‘normal’ dating and sex with women, particularly those who are not so accepting of differences. Despite these challenges, I’m 6 feet tall with a decent physique so I was able to attract a young woman and we were together for about 4 years. Unfortunately, my partner at the time was relatively inexperienced as well when it comes to sex so I wasn’t getting as much as I had hoped for.
Long story short after a series of misunderstandings and fights we eventually broke up earlier this year. In fact I had already started to ‘cheat’ on her about 2 months prior to our breakup. Her sex drive was nowhere near as high as mine, and so was her knowledge about sex. I remember walking into my first SP (service provider) in May and I was blown away by the sheer knowledge she had regarding foreplay and sex acts. The session was as much of a sex ed class as it was actual sexual release. I quickly became hooked after and before I knew it, I was seeing a girl weekly.
These girls ranged from a 4 to a perfect 10. They were from all walks of life; students, single mothers, those struggling with mental illness, drug addicts, or even recent immigrants trying to make ends meet. Despite coming from vastly different backgrounds, they all had one thing in common. That is their non-judgmental mindset and compassion for the less fortunate. You don’t need to ‘act’ like a man in front of them (in fact they might view you as disingenuous if you do). They would honestly prefer to service a socially awkward dude like myself over a ‘chad’ who boasts about his successes with other women.
One common myth is that sex workers/escorts/service providers (whatever you want to call it) are greedy and gold diggers. That cannot be further from the truth. Most are genuinely interested in spending time with their clients and love their job. But at the same time, they set strict boundaries. So, if a client wants to haggle or request something that is off the menu they will abruptly end the session and blacklist the client. A true gold digger will never blacklist anyone because doing so takes away a potential source of income.
Another common misconception is that they are the victims of human trafficking. Or they have pimps who control and r*p* them. In fact most are independent and set their own schedule, services, and prices. They do so according to their own age, experience, client preferences, as well as transportation options. Most own a car and can drive to a client, also known as an outcall. Me being a rookie, always opted for incalls. Whenever I saw a new girl, I never got the sense that she was being coerced into providing sexual services because most welcomed me with a big smile and made small talk.
Apart from doing their job, most of them are also open about their personal life. One of them told me she used to work in marketing, which is evident from her ability to connect with someone as awkward as myself. In her field it is more important to be able to build an emotional bond with a potential client than it is to present oneself as ‘better than everyone else’. I could feel that in my session with her and that is why I shifted my perspective towards sex workers. They are there to cater to the needs of a specific population. But it is a pity we commonly view them as inferior and morally corrupt.
Another moved to Toronto from a small town in order to get away from her toxic family. She recounted intimate details about how her ex was stalking her and her strategic route she took to settle in the Toronto area. I was both moved and awed by her bravery, not to mention her professionalism during our sessions. She also had an adult Labrador Retriever in the corner of the room. That is when I realized she was also a dog breeder. I then asked her how she manages to be an SP and a breeder at the same time, and she responded with “It is just something you get used to”. I froze, unable to get my thoughts out. She was a real gem, one that shined with stories of resilience and courage. Before long I was tired from ‘jackhammering’ her so I lied down with my arm wrapped around her back. She took a small breather, and then went on to tell me about how she used to work with those in mental crisis. Her job consisted of keeping track of patients’ meds and periodically reminding them to exercise self care. Her caring nature made her an excellent person, both inside and outside the bedroom.
I left feeling a sense of fulfillment and pride. In a sense I was ‘lucky’ to have been with such a marvellous woman whom to most is just another ‘slut’. This is a perfect example of ‘do not judge a book by its cover’. The rest of the SPs I saw all had their reasons why they got into this line of work. I certainly do not judge them, both their work and character. Neither do they judge me; in fact, they are positively surprised that I as an Asian guy in my 20s have the gut to visit them. That is because sex work in Asian culture is viewed as taboo and morally dehumanizing.
While I may have flushed 6k down the drain, I have expanded my horizons, gained new sex knowledge that I wouldn’t have otherwise with a civvy, and most importantly became less judgmental both towards myself and those in this industry. It is unfair to label them as whores or gold diggers as my experience have shown. They need more support and understanding from all layers of society. And I hope that will start with you reading this blog.
If you have CUM this far, I appreciate your time and wish you a pleasant journey in life, and in the bedroom.
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