To start off, I would like to introduce myself. My name is Steve, I’m 29 years old and I immigrated from China to Canada at the age of 10. I self identify as a 1.5 gen as I fit many characteristics associated with it.
Let me give you a brief rundown on 1.5 gen is. It is a term coined by psychologist Ruben Rumbaut. He observed linguistic, behavioural, as well as cultural differences between immigrants arriving between the ages of 6 to 12 compared to those either born in the host country or arrived prior to age 6, and those arriving past age 12. It is during these years children mentally establish cultural norms and develop theory of mind. Since arriving during this sensitive time period, children undergo abrupt changes to their home environment, their sense of self, and understanding of their cultural meanings. By having to learn a new language, children are exposed to different ways of life in their communities.
1.5 gens as adults often express ambivalence about their cultural identity. They often ping pong between feeling too ‘westernized’ in the presence of 1st gen immigrants (who most often came as adults), and feeling ‘too Asian’ in the presence of 2nd gens (those who were born in the West). Most have learned to navigate this complex web of cultural uniqueness from a young age. They often report feeling misunderstood by people in their own communities, as 1.5 gens comprise a relatively small fraction of the Asian American community. They also often act as language brokers, translating for their parents and sometimes even their 1st gen friends.
When it comes to dating, 1.5 gens are at both an advantage and a disadvantage. While this may sound contradictory it is not difficult to see why that is true. They are often bilingual and bicultural. They usually have enhanced perspective taking abilities and are resilient in the face of life obstacles. However, they are not as immersed in American/Western culture as 2nd gens, so that can be a potential barrier to small talk. They most likely have not achieved adult proficiency in their native tongue either, so talking to 1st gens may be a challenge as well. It usually takes another 1.5 gen to appreciate their unique talents and knowledge.
As a result of the above-mentioned characteristics, research have shown that 1.5 gens marry later than either 1st or 2nd gens. I speculate this is because they have had to compromise and learn to hide parts of themselves which their partner may not understand or appreciate. As for myself, I have never dated another Chinese woman. I think this is mainly due to me not fully understanding their expectations. The many unwritten rules surrounding Chinese dating culture makes it difficult for me to approach and make myself clear.
Another barrier is the lack of awareness surrounding 1.5 gens. Many 1.5 gens, myself included, were unaware until I learned about it through my personal research. Many are assumed to be 2nd gens, due to the way they speak and their depth of knowledge on North American culture compared to 1st gens. However, upon further knowing them, it is apparent that their core values differ from those of 2nd gens. In my experience, 2nd gens value personal autonomy and individuality more than 1.5 gens. I once had a conversation with a 2nd gen about tightening immigration laws. He took the stance of maintaining them while I was in full support of strengthening them.
In conclusion, I think 1.5 gens are a special breed. We are resilient, open minded, and ready to take on whatever life throws at us. We deserve more recognition and support as a under-researched group as a whole.
Welcome to my world 